How you will measure your life?

Exploring questions everyone needs to ask: How can I be happy in my career? How can I be sure that my relationship with my family is an enduring source of happiness? And how can I live my life with integrity?

What if I tell you just listen Seasons of love  from Rent).
Five hundrend twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundrend twenty five thousand moments so dear
Five hundrend twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year

In daylight, in sunsets, in midnights,
in cups of coffee, In inches, in miles
in laughter in strife,

In Five hundrend twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure a year in the life

(chorus)
How about Love
how about love
how about love
measure in love
seasons of love
seasons of love

Five hundrend twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundrend twenty five thousand journeys to plan
Five hundrend twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
how do you measure the life of a woman or a man

In truth that she learned
or in times that he cried
In the bridges he burned
or the way that she died

Its time now to sing out
though the story never ends
lets celebrate remember a year
in the life of friends

(chorus) 
Remember the Love
remember the love
remember the love
measure in love
seasons of love
seasons of love

IS SOMETHING MISSING?

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find your passion

The happiest people may be the ones who have found ways to make their passions in life be their “work,” whether it is work they are paid for or work they do voluntarily. These people don’t work, as many of us do, to enable them to engage in their passions intermittently—when they can find the time. For such people, what they do is not work in the sense of toil; it is enjoyable and meaningful.

            Unfortunately, the majority of people have not managed this level of satisfaction, even if they know what their passions are. Many people have given up their dreams of doing something they really care about. More unfortunate are those who have not discovered something to be passionate about. These people view their work simply as a necessity, as something they have to do in order to support themselves and their families and meet the expectations of society. They follow the path that opens before them without questioning its meaning or the satisfaction they derive from it. They may blame their lack of fulfillment or unhappiness on others, not realizing that energy and fulfillment come from within. They may regret the choices they have made or think that something is missing from their lives but not know what to do about it. Often, they do not realize that there is another way to lead their lives.

          passion-and-purposeA positive source of passion gives meaning and excitement and purpose to life. With a little help, many people can begin to discover or rediscover what their passions are and change their lives to better reflect what is in their hearts.

            When we think of “living our passions,” we often think of people such as successful musicians, athletes, artists, dancers, and medical researchers. But there are many other examples of everyday people who have found ways to do what they care about and to feel good about how they earn their living or spend their free time. For instance, one man took early retirement from a corporate job and opened a motorcycle-repair shop; another person volunteers with an animal rescue organization; and a third is taking night courses to become a landscape designer. One attorney who wanted to “run away and join the circus” as a child now does volunteer work at a children’s hospital…These people overcame the deterrents to fulfillment and found ways to live their passions. When we find the courage to pursue our passions, we often achieve things we might not previously have dreamed possible, as we open ourselves to the inspiration, energy, and commitment that come from within.

So what prevents us from discovering our passions and our potentials? People often cite constraining life circumstances, such as lack of education; lack of money; too many other commitments; or lack of opportunities for women, for people of their race, for people of their age, and so on. But what really holds most people back is the basic emotion of fear. Many people fear the unknown. Some fear the disapproval or scorn of others. Fear of change and fear of risk lead them to create scenarios of failure and self-limiting action. At the least, they are afraid of making fools of themselves by trying something new. Self-doubt and fear of failure lead to inertia. Inertia becomes a habit, and they become so inured to their routines that they become almost numb, moving through life or their jobs in a state of apathy.

HERE ARE FOUR WAYS TO DISCOVER YOUR PASSION

There are four basic ways in which people can discover their passions:

  1. Discovery by Epiphany: An epiphany is a (usually unexpected) life-changing experience that creates a sudden and intense awareness. The effect is a powerful “wake-up call.” Such a realization does not always result from
    a major life event; it can occur in a moment of solitude or in the midst of daily life.
  2. Discovery Through Change: Major life changes, such as birth, marriage, divorce, illness, recovery, a change of job, and death, can cause you to look at how you live your life and what you value. As you travel the road of life, a stumble or the call of a bird may reveal to you a new road that you were not aware of.
  3. Discovery Through Intuition: You must sense your passion in order to identify it. For some, this is easy; they have always sensed the course they wish to pursue, even if they have had to work hard to make it happen.
  4. Discovery Through Experience: For others, discovering their passions requires experimentation. This may occur gradually and subtly, as we weed out our likes and dislikes and find that we gravitate continually to a particular type of action. Or it may occur when we are introduced to something new that we had not experienced before. A gradual realization that something calls to us reveals a passion that we had not known before. Discovery through experience may require some experimentation, taking some risks, and trying something new.

            Sometimes, discovering a passion requires shutting out the distractions of everyday life and focusing on the messages of the heart. It is easier to examine our lives if we are distanced—however briefly—from them. This adds perspective to our reflection. Part of this examination may include reflection on the past, on what you loved to do and how you felt when engaged in various activities. Part of it includes an assessment of what you like and dislike in the present, what gives you energy or saps it, and what gives you a sense of fulfillment or joy. You can ask those close to you to help you identify what you seem to do well and most eagerly, what your strengths and talents are, and what your weaknesses are, based on their observations of you. You may be surprised at what others think you excel in.

            Then you can look toward the future. What things do you hope to be doing? If you could start over, what would you hope to accomplish? What vision of your future most appeals to you? Narrow this down as best you can.

            Take all the information you have gleaned and look for connections between the things you have identified. Then do some exploration to test your assumptions. If you think that something may be a passion, try different aspects of it (for example, reading about it, taking a class, talking to those who live with it, or doing it on a volunteer basis in your free time).

HOW TO RECOGNIZE A PASSION?

It may not always be easy to distinguish between a passion and an interest. Both may be something that you look forward to doing. However, a primary indication that you are passionate about what you are doing is when you find that you lose all sense of time while you are engaged in it. This has been called “flow” and being in a “zone.” It is a state in which you become completely absorbed in what you are doing. There are indications that an activity is more than an interest if:

  • You lose track of time when you are engaged in it;
  • You perform beyond your normal capabilities when you are engaged in it;
  • Your energy level is higher when you are engaged in it;
  • You feel rejuvenated and good after engaging in it;
  • You become excited when you think about it;
  • Your enthusiasm for it is consistent over time;
  • You feel more confident or empowered when you are engaged in it;
  • Others notice or comment on your involvement or performance in it; and/or
  • You dream about it.

            If you are not aware of your passions, you can open yourself to opportunities and experiences that can reveal them. Reading books, taking classes, going new places, talking with friends and relatives, and trying new activities all can help you to identify preferences. By reflecting on your past and current experiences and the feelings they evoke, you can begin to identify your passions.

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INTEGRATING YOUR PASSION INTO YOUR LIFE

To begin, you need to have a sense of where you are now, what you hope to accomplish, what you are willing to sacrifice, and what you hope to gain, in order to begin living your passion and benefiting from it.

Identify Your Purposes

First, you need to identify your purposes, the reasons for pursuing your passions. Passion without purpose is not likely to lead very far and may result in “going off the deep end,” losing a perspective of reality, and/or abandoning the important things in life for the temporarily exciting. A passion is not a purpose in itself. A purpose may be to earn a living, to create something in a particular area of endeavor, to build self-satisfaction, or to help others. You may have more than one purpose, which is fine, as long as they are complementary. You also may have several options for action in regard to your passion, and it is a good idea to identify and explore as many as possible before making a decision. Try to anticipate the possible outcomes of each option. In the end, your purposes bring significance to the pursuit of your passion.

Build Perspective

Second, you need perspective. Perspective involves both the heart and the head. One danger in embracing your passion is ignoring your current circumstances. Part of perspective is an analysis of one’s talent. Loving to play baseball does not mean that you have what it takes to become a professional athlete. But it may lead you to become a coach for a school or community league. A geologist friend who loves art (but who has limited artistic talent) chose to study the history of art as an avocation and now gives lectures at his city’s art museum. A content-based passion often becomes an avocation or recreation. Another part of perspective is identifying what it will take to pursue your passion and what you are willing to give up to attain your goal. You do not want to give up more than you will gain or give up something you will regret losing in the long run. The secret is to find a way to pursue your passion within the bounds of current reality. A passion without perspective easily can become an obsession, which is not a healthy state.

Create an Action Plan

As with any new venture, you need to develop an action plan. What actions will you take? What structure will you have to build to support your plan? Will you need to obtain more knowledge? How will you do that? What networking can you do? What contacts can you make that will help? Consider the effects on those you care about. Consider timing and opportunities. Do some investigation. Assess what is realistic and what is not. Identify what will help you to achieve your goal and what will not. Incorporate what you learn into your plan.

Build in some flexibility and contingency plans. Few roads are completely smooth, and anticipation of challenges and setbacks (and your responses to these) can help to keep you from becoming discouraged and getting off track.

Before you begin to implement your plan, set the stage. Inform those close to you of what you are planning to do—at least to some degree. You do not have to solicit their approval, but you probably don’t want to burn your bridges, either. As far as possible, create the physical conditions conducive to your progress. Identify those habits that might hinder your progress and refine your routines to support your action plan. Seek out people who understand your passion and will be supportive of your progress.

Implement Your Plan

Beginning to implement your action plan requires leaving your comfort zone and taking some risks. What these risks involve depends on your particular plan and situation. Continue to use both your head and your heart as you make choices and decisions. When you perform with passion, you view challenges as opportunities rather than as obstacles.

As you proceed, you will change. Others will notice your sense of purpose and empowerment and your energy. You can enlist others to help you achieve your goals, and you can serve as a role model for others who have not yet begun to identify and live their passions.

Stay the Course

As with any other endeavor, integrating your passion into your life requires sticking with it. Few things that are worth achieving come easily or quickly. For example, many of us have vowed to engage in healthy living or to change our dietary habits, only to tire of the effort and become engulfed in our old ways of doing things. The difference here is that when you are pursuing a passion, your heart is in it as well as your head. This helps to build willpower and commitment, even in the face of setbacks.

Remember that any good action plan is flexible. If you run up against a reality that you had not envisioned, amend the plan rather than giving up on your passion altogether. View changes to your plan as improvements rather than as failures. There are many roads to satisfaction, and you may discover rewards that you never knew existed.

        Finally, be open to opportunity. It is amazing what comes our way when we are open to recognizing, appreciating, and utilizing it.

Have a great Monday and week ahead.

Best regards,

Kiki

“Why not” is a slogan for an interesting life

Hey, hey!
It is Friday – day of  creativity and motivation. So I decide to put one of my last facebook statuses here 🙂 Let’s have a look what I create 😉

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If you #believe that something has to be done it doesn’t matter if you have all the necessary #resources – money , time, people. #Entrepreneurship is to do the things just because you believe in them even if you don not have all the resources. And
If you develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful beliefs provide, then you can get yourself to accomplish virtually anything, including those things that other people are certain are impossible . If you want to teach people a new way of thinking, don’t bother trying to teach them. Instead, give them a tool, the use of which will lead to new ways of thinking. Becouse we should #invest in people not #ideas. A good idea is often destroyed by bad people and good people can always make a bad idea better.I remember part of the interview with one entrepreneur, one the question what is your secret, he replied:When I met someone who is not lazy to work, I do my best to find him/her place in my company even if we don’t have free places, because I know that month or two he will find his/herself in the company…It’s never been just to stand and to talk 🙂 My job is much more there is never blue or red pill…but there is always : Pasion. Perpetual motion. The give-and – take. Meetings. People. Learning. Educating. Life. Incredible people. Big decision. Real game. Lots of swings. Situations. Travel. Process. Implementation. Learning. Education. …etc., it’s all about efficiency  and process there is no magic formula .A process cannot be understood by stopping it. Understanding must move with the flow of the process, must join it and flow with it. Every training is always a combination of passion, dedication, hard work, and the people …I’m probably wouldn’t do anything differently if I had to do it again. Every little thing that happens to you, good and bad, becomes a little piece of the puzzle of who you become. Every successful person you read about – they all say pretty much the same thing. ‘Do what you love.’ I know I did.Just take as much as you can…#learn #explore #havefun… So how far can you see?
Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths. What if? #People are born with the needs of #relationships with other people and the need of respect and #love. People are born with natural instinct for #learning.The #learning is the process where the #innovation was born. The more I travel around the world, the more I see people want the same thing – to be happy.We #live in a pretty apathetic age, yet we’re surrounded by an enormous amount of #information about other people…if you #feel like it, you can easily gather that information about them…having said that we still hardly know anything about #people #life.
Dealing with reality and superficial congeniality. I
‘m not playing a role. I’m being myself, whatever the hell that is.We #drive into the future using only rearview mirror. I truly believe in #Scottish #proverb that no one die for the hard #work . “It is of no consequence what people think of you. What matters is what you think of them.”
So how far can you see?
I hope see you very soon …I’m just moving clouds today, tomorrow I’ll try mountains.
I do love my job
You know life is good when you have a smile on your face as well as a smile in your heart.

With all my
K.

Small lessons about community organizing trough my experiences in USA as an professional fellow in community organizing.

kirilka angelovaI spent 42 days in USA learning, sharing and working on the topic of the community organizing. Of course I can’t share all my experience in one page but I will try to summaries my community organizing experience. And yes I am really grateful and thankful for the opportunity to be part of the professional fellowship program sponsored by U.S State Department Bureau of the Educational and Cultural Affairs. Locally  organized by WSOS and Great Lakes Consortium for International Training and Development.
So what is it community organizing?
It is never about us! It is about the interest of the community, Is about them! You as an organizer are not beginning or end! You have to ask them to be your partners because of their own interest. What can truly be accomplished with the community? And why community building is so important for the society and for building policies in general? Why we should count on each other? What can be improve and prove?
Again it is never about us as an organizers it is about them what is the change they want to see is it less homelessness, is it better education, is it better living, is it better understanding of the differences, of the religion, or just the need we to be more people to people.
I realize that the problem is in …or the most important is finding the problem? So you have to find the problem – and yes this is the hardest part. To find the problem to indentify it.
As an organizer you have your job, your hobbies, your self motivation, your networks, your organization. Of course there is always the reason the turning point why you chose to become a community organizer: is it because of your anger, or is because of the education that you have or you don’t have, is it because of your skills or is because of your family, it could be because of your religion as well.
Everybody has his/hers turning point – his/hers anger it is all about involving and engaging if you are becoming community organizer just because you have to or just because somebody push you it is shown but if you truly believe in what you want to achieve and what you have to do it is just obvious.
Is it job? Hobbies? Motivation? Networks? – isn’t it all connect with the organization? Or the problems are with the religious, education, skills, family? Where is the anger? What are the turning points?
It is all about relation and all about concerns. My job as an organizer is to organizing them to organize themselves. To build the organization and develop it on next level. Community organizing groups are made up of relationships between individuals. Of course, this is not all that holds them together. Long-term groups depend on a loyalty to the organization and its historical relationship to the community. And on, the specific issues that a group works on can draw in commitment. But at the base level, at its best, a community organizing group is made up of relationships between individuals.
Some people have the impossible dream to shows up. You always have to ask yourself questions. What can truly be accomplish?
“Community” is not something that is given in particular neighborhoods or cities. In the inner-city today, for example, people often do not know their neighbors and may actually fear some of the people who live or congregate on their blocks. Mobility in these neighborhoods is high, often for financial reasons, so it is harder for a coherent sense of geographic identity. And even when people do know each other, studies indicate that in poor communities relational ties generally don’t cross social class lines. In other words, poor people know other poor people, and more well-off people know those with economic situations more like their own.
The problem is not that people today don’t belong to any organizations at all, or that they don’t volunteer to help others. Instead, what have been lost are collections of people who see themselves as an ongoing, relatively permanent “we” that can act as collectives.
Commitment and engagement – in 4th step
First, one of the key mottos of organizing is: “People don’t come to meetings because they see a flyer or read an announcement in the bulletin. People come to meetings because someone invited them.” This is a powerful truth of human motivation. In the most basic sense, it’s much easier to go to a new place with new people if there is someone there that you “know.” Being invited also makes a person feel more important, it seems like it actually matters if they show up or not. And you can’t be accountable to a flyer. You are only accountable to another human being. If someone calls you up and invites you and you say yes, then you are accountable whether you follow through or not.
Second, people feel a part of organizations and actions not only because they care in abstract about an issue, but also because they feel connected to the individuals in that organization. The more relationships you have with people in an organization, the more you will feel a part of it and actually responsible for its success or failure.
Third, your relationship with someone allows you to engage with them around their self-interests or “passions.” If some random person calls you up and says “I know your kid is going to the school that it doesn’t give the good education,” you might even be offended. But someone who has had a personal conversation with you, and to whom you have made some accountable commitment, however small, has the right at least to call you up and talk with you about this—regardless of how you respond to them.
Fourth, once you do a lot of personal meetings one on one , the group you are a part of starts seeming less like an abstract collective, and more like what it is, a collection of unique individuals drawn together for a range of diverse reasons and convictions, however structured your organization may be. You start to understand challenges and internal tensions in your organization in more complex terms. Someone once said to me that: It’s not the idea, it’s the people.
This is actually a pretty profound statement, when you think about it. No matter how great your idea is, how “right” you are, you won’t get anywhere if you can’t get other people together around it. On the other hand, quite horrible ideas often get put into effect because enough people are willing to support them. If you don’t know your “people” then you won’t be able to understand which ideas will and won’t “go,” or how to get people to understand the “truth” of ideas you hold dear (even if you are actually wrong).

to be continued…Kiki

21 PIECES OF WISDOM FROM OSCAR WILDE

A hearty round of applause then for Oscar Wilde!

I’ve gathered  his 20 greatest pieces of wisdom right here. Let me  know if I’ve missed off your favourite.

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“I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best.”

“To be great is to be misunderstood.”

“My wallpaper and I are fighting a duel to the death. One or the other of us has to go.”

“To get back my youth I would do anything in the world, except take exercise, get up early, or be respectable.”

“Everything in moderation, including moderation.”

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.”

“I don’t want to go to heaven. None of my friends are there.”

“Talent borrows, genius steals.”

“Life is too important to be taken seriously.”

“Perhaps, after all, America never has been discovered. I myself would say that it had merely been detected.”

“Whenever people agree with me I always feel I must be wrong.”

“I have nothing to declare except my genius.”

“There is only one thing worse than being talked about and that is not being talked about.”

“I was very much disappointed in the Atlantic Ocean. It was very tame. I expected to have it roar about and be beautiful in its storms. I was disappointed in it.”

“Niagara Falls seemed to me to be simply a vast, unnecessary amount of water going the wrong way.”

“Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught.”

“When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is.”

“Experience is simply the name we give to our mistakes.”

“The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable and literature is not read.”

“In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane.”

“When a love is over the weak weep, the efficient immediately find another love, and the wise already have it in reserve.”

In 100 years time, how many people will still be quoting you?