Understand yourself, understand your learners

If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand nobody

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After each training I am doing like reflection. A lot of questions I had in my head? A lot of answers as well… But in general like conclusion from the last one: Do we really know ourselves?  Is the educational system really damaging us and our learners? Do we realize that everything is in our hands and in order to motivate the others first we have to know and realize our own self motivation? …and so on … a lot of question.
It is nothing new ! In general when participants are entering the training room they are there because of their general self motivation. But the expectation for red and blue pill nothing gonna change. Experiential learning is a changing process if you are willing to change. It is your own wish to learn and to develop.
When I am talking about self understanding I mean to experiment with your own behavior in order to see your self in different situation – to examine first your own emotion, action and reaction. To jump out from comfort zone. On theory it is easy to say but to put in on practice is not…and it is absolutely normal. To know your strenght and your weekness will help in general in everyday life.

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Consider how hard is to change yourself and you will understand what little chance you have in trying to change the others

But what I found out in this particular group was amazing. These participants they weren’t just a teachers they were life-long learners! The age of the group was 27 – 60 +. Was it easy for me? of course not? It’s never easy but it is always rewarding, part of my job as an Johari Window blind zone at the beginning but then open area …

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What does it mean to be a life – long learner? Life – long learners are curious, have a pssion for learning with drive that comes from within, and are open to whatever learning experience comes along. Life-long learners are willing to go outside their confort zone for new experiences, pose questions about “why”things are, and have the tools and skills needed to answer those questions. Life-long learners have high expectations for themselves, their peers, and are willing to listen to the ideas and experiences of others. They are open-minded, have inner strenght, are interested, and capable of learning, in multiple settings and conditions. Life-long learners have their own world view which is constantly being redefined by learning new things and learning from mistakes as well as accomplishments.

From 16 to 20 May 2016 I was trainer in Prague. I worked with teachers and educators from 5 countries – Turkey, Romania, Wels, Portugal, Italy, Litva.Thanks to Dorea Educational Institute.

The topic was :” Understand your self, understand your learnners (Enneagram). 4 days we were working on the hardest part to understand ourselves in order to understand our learners. We were  learning about 9 personality types according Enneagram tool. We were sharing experience and practicess. We were surching for the right key to motivate our learners. To include families and communities in school life in order the school to be one idea better place for the 21 century students.

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…here are some ideas :
1. In order for a student to develop a safe learning enviroment is required in which critical thinking and learning are valued, not pushed or rediculed, in which elders and peers are supportive;
2. Both teaching and learning with the students in supportive enviroment as well as academic achievment;
3. in learning process parents are need.
4.Connection ti culture and real life issues.

 Influence and motivation

1. The influence of teachers. –  teachers who motivate and encourage students, and help guide students in the right direction. Teachers belive they motivate and inspire students by demonstrating sincerity and caring, having a connection with their students and understanding their self-interest, having high expectations, and having friendly attitude.
2. Peer- to – peer influence – students do better when they have friend pushing them to do better. Schools need to create structure ways for students to be able to positively influence their peers.

3. Parents. – Parents are needed  to participate in schools life, not just by checking homework but as a support. By encouraging their children and respect the teachers and schools as an institution. The gap is in between parents- teachers – and students connection.

If you give a student the opportunity to learn, with the right tools and caring teachers with relevant teaching techniques – the results are success
…of course this course is just a step, a drop in the ocean but it was very rewareding for me to work with and for such an interesting group…

Thanks

Kiki

 

 

Face the conflict

Hello,
Today I will share with you one of the most valuable international project that was hosted here in Bulgaria and yes I was the TRAINER
Training Course “Face the Conflict”in brief .
Participants from Spain, Italy, Latvia, Bulgaria, Romania and Lithuania gathered together in Bankia, Bulgaria in order to discuss different methods for conflict resolution and management during the project “Face the Conflict“. Another successful training.
My job was to create and to implement the right activity and theory according to the program from the beggining to the end – 10 days. And of course to work with the group as a trainer, the methodology that i chose to use was learning by doing, learning by feeling, case study, debrief sessions, feedback, evaluation, self and group evaluation, video analiz of the behavior, hendouts…I love to do projects that challenge me, and hopefully in turn challenge the audience, or open their eyes to something they’re not aware of.

This training course was valuable not only as a practice and theoretical knowledge but as well as it changed the life of our participants.

“The genuine feeling that you could rediscover the human feelings within yourself, through training, small talk, big talk, through serious and very unseriouss interactions. How nice it can feel to be human, to feel that you can enjoy being true to others, and most importantly, yourself. The thing that really makes my heart go a bit bleeding (yes, exactly like the guys that didn’t want to vote “Guilty”), is that the training, and overall experience was so fulfilling, so complete in its own nature, that you could cut bonds with your everyday routines, emotional patterns, and just enjoy the Cruise of happiness with our trainers, and rest of the one-of-a-kind personalities that there were. Leaving your everyday thoughts behind, and just being surprised, how happy you can be (as it is in my case)
It is so rare that you can find the environment where all can nurture each other with their honesty and exchange of true happiness, and help each other bloom to a full flower of their beautiful personalities.”A small paragraph written by one of our participants.

By doing we learn by feeling we even learn more

As a group dynamic trainer my job is to design and to implement the right program to the particular group, according to the goals, objective, topic, and of course according to the group needs and expectations.
There are many training technologies, including instruments, structured experiences, role plays, case studies, simulations, and games. All can be used to create an interaction between the theories, models, and concepts presented and the realities of everyday life. In considering the goals of the training and the conceptual input to be presented, the trainer must decide what balance there will be between cognitive input and experiential learning. Then, with a complementary balance in mind, the trainer can decide how this will be achieved. Will the cognitive input consist of lectures, readings, handout,? Me personally I always use handouts. Which experiential technologies will work best? There are various effects of each alternative, and these must be considered carefully. Above all, the trainer should not choose to use a structured experience, role play, or case study simply because he or she likes to do it. The case study is an effective way to illustrate concepts and reinforce theory. It also presents and allows for various points of view. If the trainer’s objective is to help the participants to use concepts to analyze situations and make decisions, the case study may be the best alternative.

It is a long procedure and process to create the program is the same process and procedure to implement it as well. There are different circumstances that the trainer have to keep in mind while creating and implementing the program for example the day by day sessions: first third and fifth days are the challenging one for the trainers, but again this is my point of view.

The group behavior and reactions?
The hardest part 😉
I can explain why – on the first day of training – when we talk about the training that is 7 or 10 days with group of people who don’t know themselves and are with different age, background and work and life experience, different culture – first day is the one that is for braking the barriers and getting to know each other. Of course in this particular day, people sit next to the one that for example is from their country, and they are hiding themselves as much as they want and can. Day two is for this to get in to the topic and to see ourselves in different situation to get out as much as we can from our comfort zone. Day 3 is to show to the trainer that we are the smartest and the best 🙂 day 3 is when we know each other better and we are group, so we are acting as a group. … and so on and so for.
In my previous post I share with you my last project under Erazmus + with the topic “Face the conflict”, there was one comment about what kind of activity I used. I am not going to share them the program was created, delivered, implement from me and I am not sealing my job for free, but I am going to share the methodology that I used with photos from this particular training:
Experiential learning (learning by doing) the purpose of experiential training is to let participants feel the learning as well as think it, to let them “try on” new behaviors and new emotional as well as cognitive responses.
There are a number of different ways of changing people’s attitudes and of developing individuals’ behavioral skills. I will discuss some of them in this post: structured experiences, role plays, case studies, debrief sessions, etc.. These technologies have been used in to the Face the Conflict training and in 99,99% of my trainings.

A human being thinks, acts, and feels at the same time, but the three processes may not be congruent. The most effective way to communicate with or train a person is to reach the totality—the thinking, feeling, and behaving parts of the individual. Experience in the training and development field has made it clear that learning the principles of human behavior has little value unless it is supplemented by affective understanding and skill practice. The best kind of practice is performing under competent supervision in an atmosphere that is free of serious risk to oneself or others.

Creativity and risk taking : Still in our society tends to stifle creativity in early childhood, reinforcing thoughts and behaviors that are predictable, “realistic,” “worthwhile,” and “normal.” Throughout our lives, we are encouraged to be conventional, to follow the norms of the groups in which we live and work. Creativity—unconventional thinking or originality—tends to be expected only in “artists. „True creativity involves risk taking. Successfully creative people often have to work hard to push their ideas through the system. Personal orientations toward risk taking are formed from one’s experiences in life, successes and failures, and one’s perceptions about what one has to gain or lose. As one becomes more or less secure, one’s risk-taking orientation may change. People can change their styles in that they can decide whether or not to take more risks and to try out new ideas and behaviors. This is easiest to do if one also can place oneself in a supportive environment—one in which creativity and risk taking are encouraged rather than frowned on or feared. Individual growth experiences in a training also can encourage people to take more risks.
Role playing: Role playing is a technique in which people are presented with roles in the form of a case or scenario, then act out the roles in order to experience them for educational purposes. The ways in which these roles were approached by the role players then is discussed, and the action may or may not be tried again. Role playing is, then, a spontaneous human interaction that involves realistic behavior under artificial or “imagined” conditions.
Role playing generally is used for one of several reasons:
1. To practice behavior in preparation for a new role or an anticipated problem situation;
2. To examine a problem situation or past incident in order to learn how it could be/have been handled better;
3. To create insight into the motivations and roles of others or oneself.
In role playing, the emphasis is on developing new skills and insights and on solving and preventing problems. This differs from the lecture and the textbook approaches to learning, in which the emphasis may be on principles and determining the “right” answer.
With a real-life situation, one may never be sure that it was handled in the best way. The role play is a type of simulation in which a person or group can be introduced repeatedly to the same situation and can measure the effects of various behaviors. Because the situation can be repeated with various approaches, the impact of those various approaches can be assessed and discussed.
Thus, role playing demonstrates the difference between thinking and doing. Because the case study has a there-and-then content emphasis, it creates considerably less learner involvement than the role play and less potential for promoting transferable learning that is “owned” by the participants. The participants in a role play engage in actual behavior, confronting problems and other people. They receive immediate information about the effects of their behavior and about how they could act differently. Thus, they can relate the feedback to their actual ways of behaving in specific situations. This creates the motivation to inquire and to experiment with new behaviors.

Case study: It is important that all participants understand what is going on in the case before the trainer shifts the discussion to what should be done about it. It is not good to use case study on the first day with group that doesn’t know each other. Except to find the solution of the particular case, there is action planning some times to find the solution of the problem, but here we have a problem solving and decision making as well, all session with the case study have to finish with the debrief. Of course the most important is the Case that the trainer chose to use to be relevant to the group needs and background and skills.

The discussion that follows in the training is the core of the learning experience. It typically reveals various attitudes and habits that can be clarified, evaluated, and modified through group interaction. Observers can note not only what occurs in the role play but also their own reactions. For these reasons, the soft skills training has a wide utility in leadership and management development, training in communication skills, improvement of interpersonal relationships, and team development.

To see yourself in to different role, to open you eyes, to see and feel the reaction in to the safety environment (the training room) this is how you rise your sensitivity and try to act and react in to the particular issues to experiment with your behavior to learn by doing. This is the priceless. And again feedback: “The genuine feeling that you could rediscover the human feelings within yourself, through training, small talk, big talk, through serious and very unseriouss interactions. How nice it can feel to be human, to feel that you can enjoy being true to others, and most importantly, yourself. The thing that really makes my heart go a bit bleeding (yes, exactly like the guys that didn’t want to vote “Guilty”), is that the training, and overall experience was so fulfilling, so complete in its own nature, that you could cut bonds with your everyday routines, emotional patterns, and just enjoy the Cruise of happiness with our trainers, and rest of the one-of-a-kind personalities that there were. Leaving your everyday thoughts behind, and just being surprised, how happy you can be (as it is in my case)
It is so rare that you can find the environment where all can nurture each other with their honesty and exchange of true happiness, and help each other bloom to a full flower of their beautiful personalities. „ A small paragraph written by one of the participants.

Kiki